It's hard when you try to help somebody over and over and they just keep making bad decisions. No matter how many breaks you arrange for them, no matter how many times you outright give things to them, they still manage themselves into deeper problems.
Tonight Lynn and I were discussing several situations around us that are coming to a head. Friends who we keep trying to help. They either delude themselves or they delude us or others and eventually it catches up to them. They end up in legal trouble and financial trouble, each causes the other.
At some point you have to stop helping. It is not really helping anyway. They have to sink or swim. Sometimes, hard lessons are the only ones that really work.
I can think of twice we went broke and it turned out to be very good for us. We emerged wiser and ultimately better off.
Sometimes we help someone and it actually has a happy outcome. Those cases usually involve little or no money. Its usually simple stuff that has the best outcome.
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I have seen this in several instances, as well. It is hard to step back and say "it's time for you to fix your own mistakes", but often that is the only way they learn. No one likes watching loved ones suffer the bumps and bruises of learning the art of living, though.
Everyone needs to go down sometimes. Sometimes it is hard to have everything given to you. But those of us that survive it learn a lot of self disaplin (now, if only I could learn how to spell)
Of course, I am going to call tomarrow to find out specifically who and what you are referring to :)
Ah, the essence of parenting.
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