Deep inside the mind is a psychological process that has puzzled me for decades. Some sources say that up to 40% of ordinary people are turned on by or have fantasies about being tied up. It doesn't take much time to find out that the internet has thousands of sites that pander to such things. There are also countless manufacturers making hardware to sell for that kind of play.
With most people who actively have such fantasies, it only comes around occasionally when the biorhythms and planets line up just right. The rest of their lives they really have little interest in such things.
Why would someone want to let someone tie them up or tie themselves up?
The answer is emerging... DANGER!
Some people pursue danger. They may drive fast, climb cliffs, take drugs, etc. Experts say that the reason some couples get a thrill from having sex in unusual places is the slight chance of getting caught.
Recent tests have proven that when men are shown pictures of pretty women they are more likely to take risks. (Pictures of plain women have no such effect.)
These things feed my theory…
Built into our genes are forces that convince us to conform and behave for the good of society. At the same time (and for very good evolutionary reasons) we have smaller counter forces that tell us to rebel, beat the odds, try something different. Biorhythms and circumstances sometimes align to make those forces stronger. Like most bio-drives, if they are ignored, they just build up pressure.
Some people end up driving fast cars, where the danger can cause instant carnage and death. Some people chase fast women, where the danger is divorce, disease, etc. For those who play games where they tie themselves up, or let a trusted loved one tie them up, they might get caught, or they have some risk of being controlled by another during their play. The danger is psychologically real but physically inconsequential.
This, if done well, is a healthy and safe way to diffuse our internal biological drives to court danger. Just like swearing, it has to remain illicit in polite society or it serves no function.
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Ive also heard many people say that they only desire the physical pain when there is so much emotional pain that they have to somehow be able to feel it.
so is Mom going to buy you hand cuffs?
Bondage.does.not.necessarily.mean.pain.Many.people.just.want.the.feeling.of.tightness.(sorry.about.the.dots.my.space.bar.quite.working)
This is Thom's text with spaces added.
Bondage does not necessarily mean pain. Many people just want the feeling of tightness.
(sorry.about.the.dots my.space.bar.quite.working)
Maybe it relates to being in utero? The womb gets mighty tight when the fetus is full term. I think a great deal of our behavioral patterns start in utero.
LA
Thank you, anonymous, for translating.
As you can see I have a new keyboard.
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