The last x number of years have been very tough on Cat’s self image. The last 30 days at Hazelden has brought to the forefront just how poor and how important that self image is. The good part is that every expert we talked to just loves Cat. They even want her to come back and work there, after the required 2 year wait.
Tomorrow evening we take Cat to her next home in Rochester. The plan is for her to stay there in continuing care for a month or three. When a spot opens up at the halfway house in Fargo, she will move there. Then she can have her baby with her. Both places will help her get jobs and save some money.
Today she had a parent pass to go out with us for 4 hours. Lynn chose to take her to a spa. Cat got her hair trimmed and highlighted, manicure, pedicure, and “natural” makeup. She was getting so many treatments that one of the ladies there asked if it was her birthday.
We replied; “Sort of. It is her RE-BIRTHDAY.”
And that is what it feels like.
We have had some amazingly candid and truthful talk (facilitated by new attitudes, knowledge and skills recently learned by all of us). This is the birth of a new person and a new relationship. I really hope this new person continues to live and grow. I hope we can keep that level of truth in our future dialog.
Cat has a long hard road ahead of her, and she is willing to tackle it, even the parts she doesn’t like. It is important that she understands that we, her family, still love and care. We won’t always spoil her or help her out of jams, but we are very happy to have this new, honest and struggling person in our clan.
We love you Cat!
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I look foward to seeing the re-birthed Kat. Thank you for your updates and for taking the time to put your insights and experiences into words. It's been very comforting to read about Kat's new beginnings. And she is very loved.
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